If you have had enough of other people telling what you should be doing and what you should be having on your wedding day, then take this short quiz to find out how assertive you will need to be to get the wedding that YOU want!

1. Your parents want to pay for the wedding reception but you prefer that they don’t. Do you:

A. Accept it graciously after all they have been waiting for this day since you were born. Secretly though you will try to keep the costs down.

B. Tell them that you would prefer to pay for it yourselves as you don’t want to have to explain how you are spending the budget.

C. Offer a compromise and ask them if they would rather pay for the flowers instead as they will be a fixed cost and will avoid any nasty surprises.

2. You want your bridesmaids to wear a particular style of dress and shoes but they don’t. Do you:

A. Allow yourself to be overruled after all it is 3 against 1! They are helping you out loads so you agree to let them choose the style of dress and shoes they want.

B. Put your foot and explain that as you are paying for the outfits you would prefer things your way.

C. Compromise – they choose the dresses and you choose the shoes.

3. You have chosen a posh buffet for your wedding breakfast but you mother-in-law questions your decision. Do you:

A. Alter your plans. If she doesn’t like it then other family members might feel the same way. Besides you were concerned about long queues of people anyway.

B. Stick with it. If she disagrees then it’s probably a good choice! Teach her a lesson and book a second one the evening do as well!

C. Give in and agree to a sit down meal, but give each guest a selection of dishes to choose from for each course.

4. Your Vicar is not keen on your choices of modern songs for the ceremony. Do you:

A. Bow to his demands and instead play your songs at the cocktail hour.

B. Put forward the view that these songs have particular meaning to you both and it’s not like they are inappropriate!

C. Compromise to playing just a couple of songs whilst you sign the register.

5. Your Fiancé’s choose of best man is someone whom you revile. Do you:

A. Accept his choice – after all he isn’t telling you who your bridesmaids can be.

B. Explain your feelings and hope that he puts them before his friendship.

C. Make some innocent suggestions as to why he wouldn’t be suitable i.e. ‘can you trust him not to loose the wedding rings?’

6. You are being put under pressure to invite some people whom you have never met or even heard before today. Do you:

A. Give in and invite them, it isn’t worth arguing over.

B. Put forward that you have other people who are more important to you to invite and who would miss out if you invited these other people.

C. Send them an evening invite, but post it at the last minute. With any luck they won’t want to come anyway!

The Results

Mostly A’s… Your big heart could be to your downfall at times. If keeping other people happy, keeps you happy then by all means continue. But if you find yourself giving in to everyone’s demands just to keep them happy you will end up with a messy wedding that will please no-one, least of you.

Mostly B’s… Now you know exactly what you want but unfortunately all that determination can hurt the feelings of others. Try to take the time to listen to other people’s suggestions – you never you might just like what you hear.

Mostly C’s… Top of the class – you are a master at wedding diplomacy. Just be careful that you are not too subtle when turning down suggestions, some people need it spelling out to them. Remember that if you stand firm with your decisions in the right way, you shouldn’t upset anyone.

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